The past decade has completely redefined the parenting scenario. Children now are exposed to the internet and adult video games at a fairly early age. All this lead to them maturing faster than they otherwise would have, but such advancement does not give children a proper phase to understand their own selves and develop accordingly.
In this era of society’s perception of anorexic as ‘hot’ and the prevalent mentality of forgoing what’s morally right for what’s materially important is somewhere misleading kids to follow suit. But are they happy with this idea? Are they happy with the kind of people they are growing up to be?
It is estimated that children as young as 7 years are falling into the chronic depression trap. At least 10-15% of children are labeled depressed at any given time.
How to inculcate self-esteem in kids?
Be their guide– Children often emulate their parents unless they have been sent away at a young age. What a child learns till the age of 5 is said to set the base of the kind of person he would become eventually. If you want to raise good kids with a clear sense of who they are, and how to always walk on the path that is right, you have to show it to them.
Tune into their world- Do you ignore your kid’s blabbering with an occasional hmm here and there? It is important to pay attention to what your child says, how they react to certain people around them, what their preferences are. When you really listen and observe, it will help you to understand the underlying meaning. Maybe your kid is getting bullied in school or maybe he’s the bully. If you want to change something, you have to first know what it is that you want to change.
Confidence building through challenges- Once your child reaches the age of 6 you can help him boost confidence by exposing them to a learning environment. Since little kids love exploring and acquiring new skills, make sure you pick up on their interests and help build upon it. You can additionally open new avenues for them where they can evaluate and excel at certain skills and interests. Various empirical experiments and studies have shown that children who are assured that they are good at something often have a high sense of self-esteem.
Help them adapt- The temperament of a child keeps on changing. There have been instances where the change is sudden where at other times the change could be well spread over a time frame.
If your child is of late has turned introvert or does not open up any more, there could be an issue. Talk to them, try to understand if there is a problem. What brought upon this change, whatever it is always remember that parents have the highest chance of helping their kids shape up their personalities. This is precisely the reason why children who grow up watching their parents fight are often commitment-phobic.
The power of your words and your actions can be profound. Use these for your child’s betterment.
Never live your dreams through them- If you had grown up dreaming of becoming a wrestler, don’t think your son or daughter would carry that legacy. Never force them even if it is indirectly. Always, always let them choose the course of their own lives. You can teach them the difference between right and wrong, and guide them but eventually it should always be their decision.
Respect them– It is one thing to chuckle at your child’s jibber jabber and another to make fun of it. Acknowledge and respect their feeling, it would make them feel cherished. There’s a difference between showing respect and spoiling a child rotten.
While you need to show respect towards the child’s feelings and let them know to boost their confidence and their self-respect, but you have to know when to wear the stern parents’ hat and put down your feet. Giving into an unnecessary demand will give them the signal that they can get whatever they want by throwing tantrums.
Make them feel connected and loved– You’d be surprised at how soon you child would start picking up on the way others behave with him, including you. Children as young as two years of age have shown to be hostile towards relatives or friends, who made fun of them or annoyed them.
As parents, you have to provide a loving and secure environment for the kids. Always include them in conversations and decision making. Take them grocery shopping, ask them what should you make for dinner, and whether they like the drapes in the living room. Generally, they won’t be interested in these things but on a subconscious level, it makes them feel loved, wanted, and appreciated.