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January

New Year Resolution 2012

Year 2011 has just gone by.  Each one of us has his own feelings and perceptions with regard to the old year.  Looking through the list of resolutions that I made in the early part of 2011, I would say that I am quite happy with how things are progressing.  I am quite satisfied that I am disciplined enough to act on “tasks” which I set to do. 

 As we enter into 2012, I have come up with new resolutions for the new year.  Continue reading »

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October

Benefits of Self-Compassion

In today’s competitive world, we tend to focus on how better we are relative to one another. We tend to have high level of egos and lack of self compassions.  Our self-esteem is fragile. We get angry and irritable if we feel that we are less good than others.    At the slightest hint that this well-preserved ego is broken, our sense of well-being goes down with it as well.  This unhealthy tendency creates tension not only for ourselves but to the surrounding people as well.  On daily basis, we ride on emotional roller-coaster ride, swinging from happiness to frustration depending on whether our sense of self-esteem is enhanced or put down.  Consequently, we are not at peace with ourselves most of the time. 

 The challenge is how to be at peace with one-self irrespective of how people’s views are towards one-self or our own self-views for that matter?  One of the best solutions is to learn the art of self-compassion.  To put it simply, self-compassion is an act of kindness which one can show towards one self, no matter how bad the situation is.  A self-compassionate person knows that he has done his best under the circumstances.  There is no need to beat one-self up or criticize one-self harshly if one messes up.  Only through the act of kindness towards one-self, can self-healing start its natural process of recovery.  A self-compassionate person does not feel “threatened” if other people perform better than him in school, at work or other fields for that matter.  By practicing this art of self-healing, one will be able to achieve a greater level of peace and harmony in life.  Lastly, a person who is at peace with one-self will achieve a greater level of personal success and growth. 

 

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July

How to be Happy with Yourself

“Happiness depends upon ourselves” 

Aristotle

 Happiness is subjective and is dependent upon each individual person.  With the same situation, person A can find happiness whereas person B might be dissatisfied.  More than anything else, as happiness is a state of mind, only you yourself can give the permission to be happy or unhappy.  Continue reading »

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July

Power of Positive Thinking

“A strong positive mental attitude will create more miracles than any wonder drug”

-    Patricia Neal

 There are many advantages that can be gained by simply thinking positive thoughts.  One such advantage is the important role it plays in daily stress management.  Our ability to cope with stress is to a certain extent governed by our outlook on life.  Generally, the more positive outlook on life that we have, the greater our stress coping ability will be. Continue reading »

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June

Inner Peace

The key to having a happier life is to have inner peace and contentment.  Inner peace is the feeling of inner calm and centredness despite the turmoil in the outer world.  Seeking happiness by engaging oneself in external pleasures and stimulus will only bring temporary relief.  It does not solve the problem.  Once the effect of the external stimulus wears off, the person will be back to square one.  stress, anxiety, tranquility, relaxation

One needs to resist the temptation to seeking external pleasures as the sole means of solving one’s dissatisfaction and unhappiness in this life.  I think one of the key to more long-lasting happiness is to learn to let go of the material cravings as well as external stimulus.  One needs to learn in realising the impermanence nature of this life. Life is a constant flux of good and bad things.  This is just parts of life.  Life is not simply black and white. When one is in low point, there will be some positive aspects of it as well. 

Another life lesson in gaining more happiness is to have gratitude in no matter what circumstances one is in, good or bad.  It is too easy to go overboard when everything goes well and easy.  Similary, it is also easy to feel depressed, dejected when things do not go according to one’s wishes.  By developing the attitude of gratitude in no matter situation one is in, one is able to maintain calmer and less agitated attitude towards the ever changing life circumstances.  By possessing this attitude, one is able to navigate through this life more calmly, happily and less anguish.

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